Whether you class yourself as a pessimist or an optimist, we all have negative thoughts run through our minds every now and again. And although the odd fleeting piece of negativity is unlikely to affect your life too much; when this starts to become more regular and the negative thoughts get stronger, it can have a negative effect on both your emotional and mental health.
The trouble with negativity is that it tricks you into thinking that this is the way you are supposed to be thinking; leaving you with little room or desire to put a positive spin on anything. Before you know it your big chance may have passed you by or your enjoyment of an important event has been affected, and all because you couldn’t get round you’re negative thoughts.
There is no reason to continue like this, though. No matter how futile it seems, negativity can be overcome and you are able to free yourself from any emotions that may be holding you back. Here, are four things you may find yourself thinking from time to time and why you shouldn’t let them hold you back.
STOP Thinking These Negative Thoughts
I’m Not Good Enough
You may find yourself thinking this when you have been presented with an opportunity that you don’t think you deserve or when you have experienced a slight setback in your work or personal life. It is natural to feel a little disheartened when you have met with adversity in the past but it is important to never let an opportunity go because you don’t feel worthy. Take the point of view that you are stronger because of what you’ve been through, that everyone deserves a second chance and reach out and seize the moment.
You often hear people say that there is no such word as ‘can’t’, and in the world of positivity there isn’t. There are times when it truly isn’t possible to do something but more often than not our use of the word ‘can’t’ is to mask the fact that we are apprehensive about doing something. You never know what you can achieve until you give it a try and there’s always a big chance you’ll end up surprising yourself.
This phrase is usually followed by words like ‘I fail’ or ‘something goes wrong’ and thinking them often results in you not attempting something that may well of had a positive impact on your life. ‘What if’ is hypothetical and so by thinking it you are trying to second guess your future, which can lead to you missing out on certain experiences. You will never know ‘what if’ unless you go for it and so it’s always worth taking that leap of faith.
He/She Is Too Good For Me
This negative thought is more specific and is usually applied during a relationship or even before you have approached someone you like the look of. Thinking this regularly can have a negative effect on your self-worth and can result in you ignoring all the good things about yourself. No one is ‘too good’ for anyone else as we are all equal, it’s just a case of whether you are right or wrong for each other; something that you are unlikely to find out unless you realize how wonderful a person you are and make that initial approach.
Negative thoughts and feelings are not rare, but allowing them to overpower you is going to be detrimental to your health in the long run. Neuro-linguistic programming or NLP has a long history of helping people address issues like this. It can help you to overcome this negativity and teach you how to have more control over your emotions.
The past has a way of shaping our future and NLP can aid you in working through your past issues in order to help you attain the future you deserve. NLP practitioners, like these, can assist in many different areas of your life and will show you the power of language and the mind.
Author Chris Mayhew has had to overcome bad experiences in the past and has realized that negative thinking can really hold you back. He would recommend NLP from Performance Partnership to anyone else wanting to overcome their negative thoughts.