The people we associate with make all the difference in our lives. Studies show that when you spend more time with people who are pursuing the same goals as you, you will also make progress towards your goals and enjoy greater success. Therefore, it is vital to spend more time in a positive environment and with positive people. Moreover, when you attract positive people in your life you can radically improve your relationships and health by warding off fatigue and preventing loneliness.
Attracting positive and great people tells a lot about our personality because it shows that we are positive and great as well. Follow the 10 steps below to learn how to attract positive people into your life.
How To Attract Positive People Into Your Life
1. Be specific: authentic choices
This entails taking several factors into consideration such as; what you want, the kind of people you want to meet, the kind of people you want to work with and the specific attitude and values you expect them to have. Understanding exactly what you want and the people you want to associate with helps you identify the people who possess the qualities you desire.
2. We attract who we are
If we give off more positive energy, then we will receive more positive energy as well. Therefore, after defining what positive means to you in terms of behavior and attitude, you need to understand that: Grumpiness attracts grumpiness. Rage attracts rage. Passion attracts passion. Therefore, you must strengthen the values you value most in others and yourself (boost your positive signals) in order to attract the same. The main idea is to find reciprocally beneficial interactions.
3. Boost your self-esteem
The greatest obstacle to a great and fulfilling life is low self-esteem. A low self-esteem makes you feel as if you don’t have anything valuable to contribute and you feel you don’t deserve happiness. Some simple and highly effective ways of boosting your self esteem in order to attract positive people include; dressing well, eating well, and walking with confidence.
4. Use your intuition to clarify smart choices
Relationships are very tricky and they can be blurry even when our eyes are open. This is primarily because most people have learned how to draw conclusions mainly from surface data; how a nice person looks or how situations add up on paper. However, in order to attract positive people into your life you must go deeper and consider other relevant factors.
You must respect intuitions about your relationships in order to identify those that show compatible matches. Do you feel energized and safe or nervous and troubled? Intense sexual attraction, fear, stubbornness, ego, insecurity, and anxiety are some factors that obscure better judgment.
5. Magnetize people by seeing the best in them
Choose to energize the positive qualities in a situation or person instead of accentuating the worst. The objective is not to ignore intuitive red flags, be politically correct, make nice, flatter, and placate abusers or deny the dark side of people. Your main goal is to elevate communication in difficult relationships and mine all the gold in the positive ones. Since we all want the goodness in us to be acknowledged, it is only fair to notice someone’s assets when you connect.
6. Identify your finest qualities and speak from them
Pinpoint your best qualities and project them to other people. This could be sensitivity, irreverence, humor, or compassion. You can enlarge your energy field by simply getting out of your comfort zone and speaking out. Therefore, it is vital to prime yourself before going to important events or meeting new people.
In order to feel the positive energy you must focus on your strength and not your insecurity. Selective attention shifts your perspective to your positive attributes making it easier to move forward confidently.
7. Extend love outward
Love is a warm glow, irresistible charisma that makes you and others happy. Moreover, it is a nurturing that does not drain us and you can express it in any situation. This can be achieved by simply focusing on your heart and envisioning something you truly love. Love creates a positive radiance of serenity which makes people feel safe, soften, and want more. Therefore, it can help you attract positive people and get along with them because it facilitates rapport.
8. Practice mindful techniques
Meditation can make you feel nicer and happier to people. Regular meditation can potentially alter your habitual moods (the range of feelings you usually inhibit) towards the positive.
Meditations can help you monitor your feelings and focus on what uplifts you rather than the negative emotions. Other positive people will respond to the positive energy you emit by showing desire to be around you.
9. Become more self-aware
Take time to evaluate your negative belief systems and thoughts and heal them through ways such as introspection, journaling, and psychotherapy. The idea is to address areas that may be causing you to project a negative image.
On the other hand, it is important to practice self love and incorporate humor and fun into your life in order to keep your energy carefree and light. A positive outlook is inviting especially to other positive people.
10. Let yourself be found
If your light does not shine bright enough, nobody can find you. Therefore, we really need to place ourselves in situation where we can be easily found. It is vital to be authentically yourself in order to attract positive people into your life.
On the other hand, it is very important to understand that positive people might not come in the exact form we expected. However, this does not necessarily mean that it is a bad fit.
Although it may seem that the positive people we attract only affect us the moment we are around them, it is actually much more. The happiness and positivism spreads into every aspect of life. For instance when you are working with happy coworkers, you will always shave a sense of accomplishment and pride.
When you attract positive people into your life you will also go home in a happy and engaging mood. Therefore, even your kids and spouse will actually look forward to spending time with you. You will also wake up refreshed and looking forward to another positive day.
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